Perfect Half

Guys, stop fantasizing Triss Merigold (The Witcher) to become your perfect halves, because she's living in the virtual world...

PERFECT, feeling sensitive with this word? Are you a perfectionist? And something you hope for never turn out perfectly? Well, I learnt of this word, when I was in primary four through Scrabbles board games. I strongly believe that this word cannot be applied in my life dictionary as well. Nowadays, we always hear that teenagers fantasizing about pretty and hot singers or celebrities becoming their other halves. I understand that these are own perceptions, but sometimes it's time to come back to reality too. Fantasy can be a great escapism, but it can also intoxicate our mind. People can keep fantasizing about their idols, until they grow into old hags or old farts, but who cares. It's even none of my business. I never fall on unrealistic "traps", because perfections might lead to misery and insanity too.

Sometimes, teenagers always hope for perfect girlfriends or perfect boyfriends. However, there are many factors that shows we don't deserve the perfect one, because our own self is not even perfect. We are not machines or genetically-modified super humans; we are just normal human, built up by one single ovum and a strong champion among the sperms. Below are several examples of human imperfections (Sorry, i'm using girls as examples, same apply for guys, don't be happy):

Example 1:

Imagine you are a seriously obese girl (no offend, I don't have prejudice towards chubby or plump size friends), and you started to fantasize about your favourite actor becoming your boyfriend. One cruel reality: sometimes it is better to look into the mirror first, before you scare the hell out of your dream guy. At least work out your body to slim down before starting to build castle in the air. There is a famous saying in chinese today: there are no ugly people in this world, only lazy people exist. Therefore, if you are lazy, I bet you will end up having a gigantic booty like Big Momma. We all know sometimes people judge us through our look and first impression. However, don't judge a book by its cover too.

Example 2:

Oh my god...look at those sexy lips like Angelina Jolie, seducing eyes like Megan Fox and hot body like Scarlett Johansson. Yes, you indeed look like an actress or Victoria Secret's model, but usually younger guys can't satisfy your thirstiness for materialism. You may want to look pretty in whole day long, in Dior's gown, Louis Vuitton's handbags and Jimmy Choo's high-heels, so you might cling on some older rich guys who will become your sugar daddies. They might be married man, a sex-crazed fiend or a playboy. You think that they love you and they give you money, because you repay their "kindness" with your body. This life isn't perfect either, because you won't be happy in fact. You'll live in fear, thinking of the possibility getting murdered by the rich men's wives or getting sexually transmitted diseases from some dirty, old men. When they get tired or sicked of you, they will just dump you, like a ragged doll. All those branded things will accompany you , but you won't find happiness and no one will comfort you by your side.

Example 3:

There are some girls I know despite their age, they still behave like secondary school girls. They may look mature, but their thinking is childish enough that guys start to question about their ages. There are so much forbidden things when guys are together with them, and they will start to control guys like how their mum controlling them. They will always start the conversation with the words with "my mum says", "my mum" this and that... Then, the guys will start to confuse whether they are dating with the girl or the girl's mum. Normally, this kind of relationship doesn't last long, due to the control freak complex of the girl, unless the guy is masochistic enough to bear with the girl. Guys sometimes prefer to be with girls who have their own points and decisions. We should know that our parents might leave us one day and there will be a time we need to live independently and making lots of decisions. Parents can't guide us forever, they just give us supports and protections when we are growing up.

Therefore, we need to be grateful of what we have and stop fantasizing of having a perfect half or an unrealistic life. Love and appreciate the one who treasures us more than themselves, and learn to accept the fate and misfortune that might fall for us sometimes, because life is not always perfect.