Friday, November 27, 2015

Yes, I am 26 and Still single...So???

The question I always had and hated to answer from my relatives or friends, especially when attending wedding dinner or during Chinese New Year is: "Ah Sheng, do you have girlfriend already?" "Ah Sheng, quickly find a girlfriend la, Chinese New Year bring back, let grandma sees."I always answer them: "Yes, I hope will get one next year." "Ok, grandma. I do have some female friends, but most of them are not single anymore and some I don't even think they are interested in me." For my mum, she would always ask me: "I don't know what's wrong with you? Everyone seem like having girlfriends now, why you still don't want to find one??? Some of your friends are marrying already. Try to be a more humour guy, be outgoing, be generous, be more friendlier. Girls like this type of guy, ok?" I answer: "Yeah, mum...The problem is I don't understand what's my problem also. I think girls nowadays are more picky than guys. And perhaps I am just a school teacher. They think school teachers are boring and not rich enough. " Sometimes, it ended up with a small arguement, and my mum always said I gave too much "unreasonable"reasons, I am lacked of confidence and securities...The list goes on...

The truth is...Yes, I also hope to have a girlfriend which I can end up marrying her too...But I don't like to be a desperado, "chasing" and wooing multiple girls at the same time. It's crazy and I can't focus, because I can only put one girl in my heart at a  time. Back to my teacher-training-institute life, I did had several girls I am interested with in my list. But those silly and pathetic stories should be buried deep down under six feet. I am working as a teacher now, and most of my friends are ladies and they are teachers too. Yea, some are single ladies. To me, I think Asian ladies are not really open-minded or sporting enough. Sometimes, you invited them for a movie hang out or lunch date, and you got denials most of the time. And maybe she is really BUSY and you are not her first PRIORITY. To me, if a lady hardly gives you any chance to be near to her or spending time with her, that means she is not totally into you. The first time, second time and third time you got the same answers, sometimes you started to doubt and questioned yourself....Am I doing this right? Is she afraid of me or hating me? Should I keep contacting her? This is my only phobia in relationship: Investing in something unfruitful. I am willing to sacrifice my time, energy and riches (well, I don't have any) if things work out with someone I love (and she should love me too, no one-sided feeling please). To me, the pinnacle of a relationship with a lady is: Getting married, setting up a family with her and staying together until old.

And in terms of physical appearance, I am not the toughest, the tallest and the most handsome, popular guy ever since my secondary school years. All I can do is be my own self, be kind to people who are kind to me, being friendly, being protective to ladies and the list goes on...When I was in my younger age, I was aggressive and short-tempered (only my parents and some of my closed friends knew that), but now I am a cool person and I always sort things out in a more relaxed way. However, nowadays, we can't control what ladies see in us men. Majority ladies always go for guys they think handsome? rich? tall? treat them poorly? What else? To me, if the ladies have the right to choose their guys, why can't guys choosing their girls too, right? To me, the most important thing for two persons is communication and being ownselves, because it's an issue if either one noticed behavioral changes before and after marriage. That is why many young people married and divorced at such a young age. Being in a relationship is not a child's play, where you can be pretentious or being sarcastic to each others.

To me, having a girlfriend is a great advantage, because you know you have another responsibility, which is to be someone's boyfriend. You have to plan for the date, where to go for breakfast/lunch/dinner/supper, what presents to give during New Year, Valentines, birthday, Christmas, anniversary, her parents' birthday. Having a girlfriend motivates a man to make plans for future and maybe helps to discipline a man too...Maybe the man will reduce his bad habits of smoking, drinking and gaming 24-7.

In the end, I think every single man or lady, should be given a second chance. If the mutual feelings are slightly compatible, why not giving a try? Everyone deserves a second chance, right?

PS: This is just a random rambling, I am just a bored, single guy and I am updating my blog...

Sunday, October 26, 2014

Some Like It Hot

Dressed in red with white polka-dots
Walking down the streets and shoplots
They said she's smoking hot
Like chocolate melts in a pot
Yet I doze off like a baby in a cot

Waking up for my working preparation
Eyes staring at her with precision
I wonder if that's my imagination
Or is that really just an illusion?
Which causes me to have such delusion...

Saturday, March 1, 2014

The Sandcastle

Building sandcastle in one hot noon
I'm using bucket, cup, fork and spoon
Scooping a shovelful of sand from shore
I'm trying to build the second floor 
Coming forwards the fingers of sea
Throwing two strong, sudden fists to me
The sandcastle falls like dominoes
And it disappeared between my toes...

Friday, February 28, 2014

2 4get

Getting approval from her dad
He feels like a lucky lad
Always have her in his head
Holding hands until they grad
Then she dates a guy named Ted
The reality really makes him sad
His heart feels as heavy as lead
Jeaolusy just drives him mad
He wishes if Ted was just shot dead
Deleting their photos from his I-pad
Those are the only memories they had
He knows: maybe it's time to forget...

Friday, November 29, 2013

Ready Your Guns and Bullets

Scorching, hot weather makes my lips crack
They try to trace me off from the old track
Going to launch their massive, sudden attack
Not any RPG games where you slash and hack
We have no time to scream: What the heck!
We're ready with guns and bullets from the rack
A few rocket launchers are ready on the deck
High morale and spirit, there's nothing we lacked
My team and I exist as ruthless wolves pack
Fighting endlessly, watching out each others back
We will bury their bodies, wrapped in sacks...

Thursday, November 21, 2013

Five and A Half Years

18 of us getting to know each others by fate
We're course mates, some of us are housemates
Graduation, for us, sound like too long to wait
"Fishing" in lecturers' classes, without rods and baits
Together, countless dinners we've spent and ate
There maybe some dramas and fights we create
But our bonds are as strong as an invincible gate
Farewell is just another hardest words to bade
While sorry is never the hardest words to said
Job interviews, we're counting down the date
Graduation is just a words of love and hate
Let us keep in touch, it is never too late
Our friendships will last until Heaven and Hades...

Sunday, June 23, 2013

Don't leave, Stay

Wiping up her tears with her sleeve
She told me that she will leave
Even if I turned over a new leaf
And not doing anything aggressive
The present for her in the new year eve
She never really comes out to retrieve
Maybe her eyes just know how to deceive
Which causes my mind very hard to perceive
Again, I couldn't tell her: "Stay, don't leave!!!"
I only know the day she left is the only day I grieve
It's the same like tearing up the things we had weaved...