Sunday, May 29, 2011

How Valuable You Are?


Every objects on this earth have value. You named it, they have it...For example, even the waste products that seem worthless in the kitchen can be used as fertilizer in the garden; mineral stone like diamond worth billions and caused bloodshed in humanity.

Therefore, I believe everyone has their own value. That's how valuable our parents are, they are irreplaceable. That is because they gave us life, to roam the earth, to breath and to love others. However, for people nowadays, they tend to value people at the first impression, and that "kill off" lots of potentially-budding relationship and friendship.

As a future teacher, my job is to teach and improve a student's weakness. Never ever condemn about their weakness or mock at them, because there's always value in every little soul. When I mentioned value here, it means their self-esteem. To cause embarrassment or giving discouraging remarks to kids will only hinder their learning process. When the glasses in their tiny hearts had started to crack, it always take time to mend them back in shape.

A teacher's job is to be a motivator that never give up in educating the students. Moral values and love are showered in class, so that the students will have a conducive learning environment. Through a well-balanced education, from generations to generations, students will be mound into valuable human and citizens. In real life, they have other roles to play as well, such as husbands, wives, mothers, fathers and other future roles. Teachers should teach kids to see good value in others, instead of judging a book by its cover.

Usually, in daily life, society always associate plump size or chubby people with laziness and clumsiness. However, I think they are always the easy going and cheerful one. As their friends, what we can do is helping them to overcome their weaknesses, for example, go jogging or doing other sports activities with them, besides sharing some tips of healthy eating with them.

When comes to relationship, every men and ladies also has their own values and everyone set their value differently. That's why we see why some guys and girls out there are playing hard to get. Playing hard to get is actually a state of creating challenges in a relationship, to test how far the person likes or appreciates us. People love challenges, and he/she will tend to appreciate him/her more, if both souls succeed in getting into a relationship.

There's one situation like this: I knew a girl since last year, and we did chat a lot almost daily. Sometimes, due to our insomnia, we even chat until 3 a.m. till 4 a.m. I found that there's something in her that attracted me, especially her strong personality, wittiness and intelligence shown in chatting. Through communication, I did learn about some of her personalities and values in life. Before that, I think she was a cool, not-easy-to-approach type; but I was wrong, never judge a book by its cover! In fact, she was friendly, humble, positive and non-judgmental.

In my social circle, I only had few female friends, which I could trust, and I'm glad to have a female friend like her. I respect and appreciate her, and I think I couldn't afford to lose her either. I'm not sure whether I did fall for her, but usually when i didn't see her online at certain time, I would be feeling that I miss her so much. Then, I would keep myself busy, doing things such as reading, blogging, listening to songs and surfing the internet. Whenever she signs in, with the green colour "Available" sign, I'll be in a happy and good mood, feeling like jumping sky high. I also like the way she convey her thoughts: short, simple, yet meaningful...Chatting with her can be quite comfortable and relaxing.

Well, looks like I was too absorbed in my own world, few minute ago. In the end, I think the most important is how well you appreciate and value your own friends and loved ones. Treasure them before it's too late; love them before they left you; hug them to comfort their heart; kiss them if you love them...Actions must always louder than words, keep in mind !!! ^^

Friday, May 27, 2011

8 Fatal Attractions (For Ladies)


Recently, I read this article on the internet. Personally, I think these tactics can be used by 21st century girls to attract or attack guys...Hope the tips here can help all single female friends out there to get the guys which they really dreamed of. Please read and enjoy:

每个女人都有自己的梦中情人,比如我,最能打动我心的是全世界片酬最高、最有票房号召力的微笑机器、美国帅哥汤姆·克鲁斯。而我相貌平平,身材一般,想吸引那些优秀的男人,这可能吗?当然可能,只要你听听专家的指导。

大美人们无需为此发愁,从来不需要她们主动去做什么,男人的眼光就已经在她们身上打转,她们需要学习的是如何在众多的优秀追求者中取舍。而我们的运气就没有那么好,相貌平平,身材一般,当身边出现了一个心仪的男人,他的目光往往不在我们身上停留。怎样做我们才有希望呢?看看我们的八点建议吧:

·大胆出击

“我去一个朋友的生日聚会,我马上就喜欢上了这个男人,他目光深邃,能理解我的幽默感。晚会结束的时候,我请他送我回家。 在车里,我装作不经意把手放在他扶档把的那只手上。一路上我们都沉默着,然后我到了家,在我家门口,我主动吻了他的脸颊……后来他告诉我,我主动追求他,让他松了一口气——他是不敢这么做的,我的举动给他的心灵带来巨大的震动。”——雷洁,29岁,空中小姐

专家评论:此时的女性就如手握渔叉的渔夫一样眼疾手快,毫不手软。面对犹豫不决的男人,最简单的方式反而最有效。有些男人马上就范,心里暗喜你替他们做出了决定。但也会有弊端,那就是当你采用男人的方式的时候,你会吓跑另一些男人。

男人的看法:像男人一样调情的女人,我们并不感兴趣,因为我们会觉得是在和一个男人谈情说爱。我们喜欢女人主动,但要用更巧妙的方式。一个命令我们躺下的女人会把我们吓跑。姑娘们,温柔一点好吗?

·用性感勾引他

“我的秘方是:长发、短裙,香槟酒和迷醉的眼神。平时在办公室里我只穿职业装,一天晚上,我和同事们一起去酒吧,其中有我心仪已久、但未曾表白的男人。那天晚上我穿着短裙和长筒靴,平时梳得整齐的头发披散下来。当他邀请我跳舞的时候,我挨在他的胸前,让发丝掠过他的脸庞——从此我成为他长久的舞伴。”——许萍,外企职员

专家评论:这种方式适用那些对自己的长相、身材和胸围非常自信的女人。男人是不会追求那些抽着香烟和他们讨论投资问题的女人的,别相信他们说什么气质比身材更重要之类的话,看见美女他们马上会起身,撇下你面对账单。

男人的看法:除非对女人不感兴趣,没有一个男人面对性感的诱惑无动于衷。一个邀请我看她的女人,我会看,如果她鼓励我触摸她,我会触摸!但这种调情需要自然而微妙的技巧,否则会被视为低俗。

·用智商吸引他

“我经常被人称为“太聪明” 了,因为我是化学专业的硕士生,这被看做是“男人的专业”,但正是这些分子式帮助我征服了我的未婚夫新鹏。我很少对别人谈起我的工作,但新鹏似乎对此很感兴趣。我很喜欢他,希望让他知道我的专长,于是我耐心地对他描述我目前研究的项目……后来他对我说,智商高的女人使他非常爱慕。”——朱莉,30岁,化学工程师

专家评论:这种方式对那些容貌尚可、智商尤佳的女性非常适合。男人普遍认为,智力型美女的美丽如同醇酒——相伴时间越长,魅力越是持久。

男人的看法:我们很难享受和那些只会咯咯傻笑的女人的谈话。如果我们希望交谈,就愿意对方也能说出建设性的观点,而不是在心里乞求她不要开口。如果她既漂亮又有趣,我们愿意跟她到任何地方。

·逗他发笑

我更愿意用幽默感而不是搔首弄姿来诱惑一个男人,通常这非常奏效。一个夏日的星期天,我在湖边的酒吧街散步。那时我单身,非常希望找一个男朋友。我看见一个跑步锻炼的年轻男人坐在长椅上休息,他是我的邻居,我知道他在一家大公司工作,但我们从来没有交谈过。我拿着手机走上去说:“麻烦你一下,教教我如何保存电话号码好吗?”他愣了一下,马上热心地接过电话,调到“电话簿”一栏问道:“你想储存什么电话号码?”我回答:“你的电话号码。”他疑惑地看着我,然后大笑起来,邀请我去酒吧喝一杯。我相信,从来没有哪个女人这样和他调情!”——兰熏,27岁,销售员

专家评论:这个方式对那些极富幽默感的女人非常适合,是真正的女性智慧幽默,而不是插科打诨的疯小姐。的确,女人的幽默感是双刃剑,在逗男人发笑的同时也驱散了他的性幻想。女人的幽默感如果是乐观心态的同义词,所有的男人都会欢迎的。

男人的看法:对我们来说,一个幽默感十足的女人是懂得享受生活的女人。的确,一个逗人发笑的女人想保持性感很困难,但这不妨碍我们被她吸引并愿意和她相处。

·用弱点吸引男人

“我并不是傻乎乎的小女孩,但我知道无助的女人可以激起男人保护她的本能和他的雄性激素。我曾和几个好友做过这样的实验:我拿着一张地图在街上散步,如果遇到年轻英俊、穿着得体的男人我就上去问路。几乎每次都是这样,这个男人对我说我要找的地方离此处不远,他可以送我去。我非常感谢他,他很高兴,最后请我去吃饭或者去酒吧。”——林玲,外企职员

专家评论:不要滥用“迷路的小女孩”的伎俩。那些行色匆匆的男人会认为这非常讨厌,更不要说会被误认为寻找客人的应招女郎。(转自club.china.com)

男人的看法:非常新颖啊!这跟那些耍性感、耍性格的女人非常不同。尽管我们很少在街上有这样的艳遇,不过我们会很容易被诱惑的,但千万不要让我们看见她又在别处以同样的方式询问别的男人。

·好猎手慢慢捕

阿峰不是那种轻易对女人表示兴趣的男人,他是优秀的股票分析师,爱读书,爱看电影和戏剧,在工作之外经常会写戏剧评论。我对他心仪已久,于是我接近他的朋友,通过各种方式了解他的喜好和对女性的口味——他偏爱浪漫的淑女装,于是我的衣柜里添置的都是这个类型的服装,我还恶补戏剧常识,培养对戏剧的兴趣。当一家英国话剧团来华举行首场莎士比亚戏剧演出时,我订好了票请快递送给他……此后他对我非常钟情。”——朵朵,26岁,编辑

专家评论:撒一张大网,做充分的准备,考虑周全,然后耐心等待猎物掉进网中——一些有心计的女人会如此设计自己的艳遇。应该说这非常有效。需要提醒她们的是,得到了这些男人之后,她们会怎样?恢复原来面目还是伪装到底?

男人的看法:如果一个女人费尽心机地接近我,我会非常感动的,但不免也有些害怕,这么有心计的女人很难斗吧。

·耍个性

“我并非传统意义上的美女,事实上我的五官并不完美,但历任男友都赞美我非常吸引人,我想这是因为我的个性很突出,穿戴打扮非常特别。我很少妥协,我行我素,这也使我不同于一般的女孩。”——张心,歌手

专家评论:一个相貌平平,没有个性的女人是很难吸引别人注意的。所以对相貌中等的女孩来说,个性是最有力的武器。

男人的看法:可爱的个性,同意。比如不随波逐流,坚强勇敢,有原则,幽默开朗,智慧过人……这些都可以使一个容貌一般的女孩变得优秀,也可以使男人爱上她。

·非常规出招

“我深知自己的相貌并不出众,也没有过人的智慧,我怎样才能吸引暗恋的男人的注意,并让他爱上我呢?我在一个女员工众多的部门工作,而他是另一个部门的上司,我敢说他从来都没有注意过我。有一天早晨,我上班等电梯的时候正好碰到他,我故意摔倒,划破了膝盖,他热心地帮我找创可贴。从此我们在公司里相遇总会默默微笑一下,一直到他邀请我单独吃晚餐。”——于娜,公司职员

专家评论:勇敢的女人不会两手空空!即使她收获不了一个情人,也可以收获一个朋友。需要注意的是出招时不要过于拙劣,让他觉得你很笨、很没用。

男人的看法:这种方式搞不好就弄巧成拙。一个笨手笨脚、打翻茶杯、尖声大叫、摔倒在地的非美女能让男人心生爱慕吗?拜托一定要想个优雅点的方式来吸引我们的注意。

Personally, I think I'll get attracted to girls who are in the category 3, 4 and 7...Brainy (not academically, but psychologically), humorous and strong personalities will be a great turn-on for me...As for look, I prefer the girl-next-door type...friendly, chatty and simple sense of fashion...^^

Sunday, May 22, 2011

For Muchacha Only...


* Muchacha means girl or young woman in Spanish.

From a guy:
I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone
But I can tell you what it is for me
Love is knowing about someone
And still wanting to be with them
More than any other person
Love is trusting them enough
To tell them everything about yourself
Including the things you might be ashamed of
Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone
But still getting weak knees
When they walk into your life and smile at you...

To a girl:
Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot,
who calls you back when you hang up on him,
who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat,
find a guy who will stay awake just to watch you sleep,
wait for the boy who kisses your forehead,
who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats,
who holds your hand in front of his friends,
who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on,
one who's constantly reminding you of how much he cares,
and how lucky he is to have you by his side,
the one who turns to his friends,
and says, "that's her."

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Me Giving Opinions ???


The time was about 1.00am, my eyes were still wide opened, staring into my notebook screen...
It was a quiet morning (I guessed), after doing a little bit revision for the coming exam...
Sipping my Lipton milk tea, munching Chipsmore chocolate chips cookies,
I viewed and shared some music videos on Youtube...
I signed in to FB and MSN for a while, to have a casual chat with some friends...
Just socialize n flirting with one or two, i guessed (ehem~coughing)...
To be honest, I don't know why some people have the abilities to chat with lots of people at the same time...
Suddenly, there was a KPLI friend I made in my teacher-training college, messaged me on FB...
He was a friendly Indian guy, named Naveen, age and status unknown, from Klang...
And he could understand and speak Chinese fluetly (haha~almost like the bullet of M-16)...
Well, his message sounded like this:

Could you please FB message me 3-4 sentences of your thoughts on each of the 5 topics?
1. Human interest
2. Journey to the future (not Journey To The West?)
3. Tech savvy
4. A way of life
5. Job satisfaction

In my mind: Wow, these were really high level questions...and I never think of them before...
And I'm not a good thinker like Socrates or Aristotle...
However, as a friend, sometimes I really enjoy sharing my thoughts with others...
Nevermind, I'm a night people, and I'm still waiting for a friend in MSN, because she was away for a while (I had a tendency of waiting, what a stalking weirdo, hahaha~)...

Without a second thought, my well-spring of wisdom (my brain) was filled with ideas...
Possessed by tonnes of ideas, my fingers bursting with energy...
They danced and stomped madly on the keyboard (it was not a ballet, maybe paso doble)...
I thought some priests need to exorcise my uncontrollable fingers...

I couldn't resist the questions' temptation...
So, my fingers remained in a trance condition...
In the end, they stopped due to overwhelming exhaustion...
And here were my replies for the questions: (sounds poetic, huh?)

  • "Human Interest - People tend to do things they preferred n interested in life, but sometimes life is not as perfect as we expected, coz we sometimes have to do what we felt reluctant to do...The most important is to shed off that negative thoughts which will conflict with what we are doing...

  • Journey to the future - We always think of what will happen in the future, coz it seemed to be so far, yet so near...However, the most important is did we do enough preparation to face the future? The future always awaits us, it won't run away, but human tend to escape the future, bcoz they are not well-prepared to face it...

    Tech savvy - As the human of 21st century, we are exposed to tech savvy devices and gadgets everyday...However, did you ever think of tech savvy gadgets actually slow us down, if we depend on them for too much? For example, if we rely on calculator too much, our skill in mental arithmatic will become weak...
      • A way of life - Every people has their own way of living, we can't stereotype people by judging their own way of living...Bcoz everyone is brought up in different environments, different aspects of socio-economy and education status. However, the most important is, a human should live with honour/dignity and walk on the right, healthy path...Never ever sell out our soul, by indulging in drugs, free-sex n other unhealthy habits..

        Job satisfaction - As we know, youngsters nowadays are quite choosy when comes to choosing their own carriers...Due to the hardship in life, sometimes people work...For some people, they work to gain money and lead a life of materialism and hedonism...That's why many youngsters nowadays, they consider too much on their salary before seeking a job...They just want a job with high salary which satisfies them, in fact they are not really enjoy doing their job...Sometimes, human did wished for too much than they actually deserved...Sometimes, the ideology of the society did changed them...For example, some parents always want their children to get a good job with high paids when growing up...This kind of ideology will spread from generations to generations...And most people who didn't enjoy their work will lead to the increasing of social problems..."
In the end, I hoped that my opinion could really help Naveen...It took me 15 minutes to answer all the questions, but it was worth it, because I got the opportunity to squeeze the juice out of my brain...After that, here i am, writing the blog now...Oops...My friend suddenly signed off from her MSN...Maybe I already forgotten about her, so she just left...Hmmm...I was sure that she felt tired and went into her dreamland...It was okay, I used to get "dumped" already (hahaha~ laughing)...Hey, Uncle Chong, don't think too much...You'll go nuts like Captain Jack Sparrow (my innerself told me)...It was 2.45am now, guessed it was time for me to rest too...
Sweet dream, everyone...^^
(Switching off the lamp, lying on the bed, staring into the ceiling, my dead-fish eyes slowly closed, snoring...)

Friday, May 6, 2011

《错过了》


我的人生甜酸苦辣

我的人生缤纷灿烂

我的爱如此纯真

因为我见过天使

对此我深信不疑



你在地下铁上对着我微笑

虽然身边伴着另一个男人

但我可不会为此辗转难眠

因为我已有心理准备

你就是这么的冷 你就是这么酷

你就是这么的狠 这是千真万确



我曾在人潮拥挤之处瞥见你的脸

一眨眼 你已在人海中离奇蒸发

这一切令我不知所措

也许 你我是活在不同的世界

命中注定 永远分隔两岸



我的视线被你的背影占据

在我们擦身而过的一瞬间

你应该可以从我的神情看出

我欣喜若狂飞上云霄

但你的双眸告诉我 将再也见不到你了



我们虽共享过那永恒的片刻

当我回想你那天使般的笑容

而你也想到我们应该在一起时

也许那是面对事实的时候

因为我和你永远无法相依。


Just let her go, if your loved one wanna leave you,

and if you want her to be happier with other man,

let the tears and time flow, try forgetting her,

but never hate her or become enemies,

try to steel your heart and move on,

you will find the righteous one day,

that's the way of a real gentleman...