记忆

记忆

有甜蜜的，有痛苦的

而且更有令人难忘的

脆弱的记忆

也许经过车祸后

就这样消失了

记忆，

会像梅花那样吗？

春季后，就这样凋谢了

记忆

会像冰块那样吗？

溶解后，就这样蒸发了

记忆

会像汽油那样吗？

燃烧后，火就这样灭了

记忆，

会像香烟那样吗？

抽完了，只有灰烬留下

记忆，

会像瓶酒那样吗？

喝完了，剩下的是空瓶子

24 Hours A Day At Home

Sitting at the corner, sometimes life gets you into a corner?

Open up my small dead-fish eyes, on the messy bed I lie

Waking up early for brunch, yet I prepare my own lunch

Just an amateur cook, without Emmanuel Stroobant look

Grab some books to read, to charge the brain in my head

I am staying on the net, surfing all infos and datas I can get

Just playing some games, all the villains are getting lame

Searching for someone to chat, yet no one puts down their hat

Pumping steel and working out, I don't have arthritis and gout 

In the garden I jog, no one wishes to grow into a lazy hog

Lying myself on the bed to sleep, waiting for the time to slip

Staying alone at home half day, this is as much as I can say...

Piece Of Mind From A Rationalist: Sugar Sensitive Kids?

Boys and girls, want some candies and lollipops?

There is a popular belief that kids become hyperactive at birthday parties, Halloween and other clebrations where lots of cakes, cookies, ice-creams and candies are served. They seem to get so wild and "high" as if they have taken cocaine after eating sugary foods. 

I've been having bad experience before with hyperactive kids (They were slow learners and having difficulties to focus in my remedial class too normally) when I was in my first practical. After giving them some chocolates and sweets during recess, they seemed like bursting with energy in my next lesson. They jumped here and there, rolling on the dirty floor like there was no tomorrow, tearing up my teaching aids and messing up with my laptop. I just knew that the whole class was in a total chaos. Luckily, I had a lecturer who was understanding enough and didn't fail me during his observation in my class. Overall, it was my fault too, because as a teacher, I really failed the control of classroom.

So, is there really a condition as 'sugar high' or 'sugar rush'? Has this effect been greatly exaggerated or non-existent? I've been reading articles on medical research lately and I found that the 'sugar high' condition is not yet medically or scientifically-proven. The studies conducted have shown little, if any, connection between eating sugar and hyperactivity. 

One study compared a group of normal kids to other group whose parents believed their kids were prone to 'sugar high'. Each group of kids were kept on a different diet for several weeks. One of the diets was high in sugar, one was low in sugar and one contained artificial sweeteners like saccharin. After 9 weeks, the study showed that the different diets of kids had almost no effect on their behaviours. 

The Black Magic Woman 2

Save or not save?
The feelings of unable to love and protect are unspeakable...

I am on my way hunting for the witch everyone feared

Trying to get the location of the witch from an old seer

Riding a dark horse, I am ready with my battle gears 

Looking young, didn't seem to age a thousand year

Her blue eyes looked into my eyes calling me: "Dear!"

Familiar voice forced me to quickly stopped my spear

Too late, she was tied to the pole, ready to be seared

Turning my head, I know I shouldn't shed a single tear

A sudden shot of pain in heart, tasted as bitter as beer...

  

仓央嘉措《我问佛》

我問佛：為何不給所有女子羞花閉月的容顏？
佛曰：那只是曇花的一現，用來蒙蔽世俗的眼，沒有什麼美可以抵過一顆純凈仁愛的心，我把它賜給每一個女子，可有人讓它蒙上了灰。

我問佛：世間為何有那麼多遺憾？
佛曰：這是一個婆娑世界，婆娑即遺憾，沒有遺憾，給你再多幸福也不會體會快樂。

我問佛：如何讓人們的心不再感到孤單？
佛曰：每一顆心生來就是孤單而殘缺的，多數帶著這種殘缺度過一生，只因與能使它圓滿的另一半相遇時，不是疏忽錯過，就是已失去了擁有它的資格。

我問佛：如果遇到了可以愛的人，卻又怕不能把握該怎麼辦？
佛曰：留人間多少愛，迎浮世千重變，和有情人做快樂事，別問是劫是緣。

我問佛：如何才能如你般睿智？
佛曰：佛是過來人，人是未來佛 。佛把世間萬物分為十界：佛，菩薩，聲聞，緣覺，天，阿修羅，人，畜生，餓鬼，地獄。天，阿修羅，人，畜生，餓鬼，地獄為六道眾生，六道眾生要經歷因果輪迴，從中體驗痛苦。在體驗痛苦的過程中，只有參透生命的真諦，才能得到永生，鳳凰涅盤。

佛曰：人生有八苦：生，老，病，死，愛別離，怨長久，求不得，放不下。

佛曰：命由己造，相由心生，世間萬物皆是化相，心不動，萬物皆不動，心不變，萬物皆不變。

佛曰：坐亦禪，行亦禪，一花一世界，一葉一如來，春來花自青，秋至葉飄零，無窮般若心自在，語默動靜體自然。

佛曰：萬法皆生，皆係緣份，偶然的相遇，暮然的回首，註定彼此的一生，只為眼光交匯的剎那。緣起即滅，緣生已空。我也曾如你般天真，佛門中說一個人悟道有三階段：勘破、放下、自在。一個人必須要放下，才能得到自在。

我問佛：為什麼總是在我悲傷的時候下雪？
佛曰：冬天就要過去，留點記憶。

我問佛：為什麼每次下雪都是我不在意的夜晚？
佛曰：不經意的時候人們總會錯過很多真正的美麗。

我問佛：那過幾天還下不下雪？
佛曰：不要只盯著這個季節，錯過了今冬。

不回.算了

最近，与一位朋友在面子书聊天。在前几天，还聊得好好的；但不知怎么，前三天只是友好地关怀与慰问，却遭到“无声”的答复......看到她“无声”的答复，就开始担心自己是否有做错了什么事，还是自己的用词不当。我有考虑过种种她不回复的因素，但她的反应很令我费解。结果，再发了一封短讯向她道歉，因为的确不知道自己到底错在哪儿...最后，还是没有下文，有时候真的很不喜欢那种guilty的感觉。明明自己没做错什么事，但偏偏因一个人的反应，却要向对方道歉。

对我而言，若朋友需要我；能帮到的，我都会二话不说，出手相助。与朋友在聊天时，有什么问题问我，我都会一一回答，从不敷衍他们。不管有多忙，我还是会抽出时间回复朋友，因为我不喜欢让人等待。毕竟，我也不喜欢等待；不是没耐心，因为等待久了，会累。

对那些经常不回复短讯的朋友，我也无可奈何。我只是想让他们知道，有些朋友，不是在你需要他们的帮助时，你就嬉皮笑脸，低声细语寻求帮忙；不需要朋友时，则像垃圾一样把他们抛到九霄云外去，或者把它们像透明人般看待。要知道，人家对你好，对你表示友善并不是一件理所当然的事。一个人对你好，是因为他懂得珍惜像你一样的朋友，不想这一段友谊破裂；有些人对你好，是因为很爱你，害怕失去你。

最后，我想说的是：不回短讯的人，要么健忘、要么无情...要不然一开始，他/她就不曾把你当过朋友看待。回复短讯不需要几分钟,，而且不会让你失去一宗价值500万令吉的生意（哈哈哈...即使你再忙的话）。回复短讯，是为了表示珍惜你的朋友，还有爱你的人......因为这一世，对你真正好的人并不多。能在人生中的某个阶段互相认识，那是一种缘分，惜缘并不是挂在嘴边的两个字。人与人之间，要真心与真实，不是现实...

****事情真相：因自己的愚昧，我的妈呀！原来只是一场误会...假期吃饱太得空没事做，就想太多...>.<

仓央嘉措《十诫诗》

第一最好不相见，如此便可不相恋。

第二最好不相知，如此便可不相思。

第三最好不相伴，如此便可不相欠。

第四最好不相惜，如此便可不相忆。

第五最好不相爱，如此便可不相弃。

第六最好不相对，如此便可不相会。

第七最好不相误，如此便可不相负。

第八最好不相许，如此便可不相续。

第九最好不相依，如此便可不相偎。

第十最好不相遇，如此便可不相聚。

但曾相见便相知，相见何如不见时。

安得与君相诀绝，免教生死作相思。

曾虑多情损梵行，入山又恐别倾城，

世间安得双全法，不负如来不负卿。

仓央嘉措《你见或者不见我》

昨夜三更，通过老友 - 书缘（或许称他老吴吧）的推介，不知不觉喜欢上了仓央嘉措大师写的一些情诗。以下就是其中一首：

你见，或者不见我

我就在那里

不悲   不喜

你念，或者不念我

情就在那里

不来    不去

你爱，或者不爱我

爱就在那里

不增   不减

你跟，或者不跟我

我的手就在你手里

不舍   不弃

来我的怀里， 或者

让我住进你的心里
默然   相爱
寂静   欢喜

[仓央嘉措简介]

六世达赖，爱美人不爱佛祖的才人，写了众多优美的爱情诗歌。 

生于康熙二十二年，十四岁时剃度入布达拉宫为黄教领袖，十年后为西藏政教斗争殃及，被清廷废黜，解送北上，道经青海今纳木措湖时中夜循去，不知所终。 

仓央嘉措是藏族最著名的诗人之一。他所写的诗歌驰名中外，不但在藏族文学史上有重要的地位，在藏族人民中产生了广泛深远的影响，而且在世界诗坛上也是引人注目的一朵奇花异葩。引起了不少学者的研究兴趣。藏文原著有的以手抄本问世，有的以木刻版印出，有的以口头形式流传。足见藏族人民喜爱之深。汉文译本公开发表和出版者至少有十种，或用整齐的五言或七言，或用生动活泼的自由诗，受到国内各族人民的欢迎；英文译本于1980年出版，于道泉教授于藏文原诗下注以汉意，又泽为汉文和英文。汉译文字斟句酌，精心推敲，忠实准确并保持原诗风姿，再加上赵元任博士的国际音标注音，树立了科学地记录整理和翻译藏族文学作品的典范。仓央嘉措在藏族诗歌上的贡献是巨大的，开创了新的诗风，永远值得纪念和尊敬。

传说，六世达赖仓央嘉措虽为达赖，但生性自由，在一次的游历中爱上一个民间女子玛吉阿米，并难以自拔，甚至溜出寺院与其相会。在20岁那年这惊俗之恋得到了彻底的爆发，五世达赖大师准备为他授比丘戒的时候，他竟悲愤的想要自杀。为爱情的自由，凡人可以逃亡，小喇嘛可以还俗，只有他，作为达赖佛教第一人，无处躲，也无处逃。为了阻止仓央嘉措，一些当地的宗教势力甚至派人将玛吉阿米奸污，告诉他这是一个如何污秽的女子，而仓央嘉措却说，世间一切的污浊都不足以沾染玛吉阿米的圣洁。

宗教律例不可能容忍出轨的离经叛道。仓央嘉措就这样因“耽于酒色，不守清规”而被康熙帝予以废黜。年仅２４岁。对于他的圆寂，说法众多。有的说他死在逃亡的路上，没有人知道他的卒年及准确的圆寂之地。有人说是被清朝皇帝软禁于山西五台山并圆寂于当地，有人说是在藏南一山洞坐化，有说是其周游印度、尼泊尔等地继续传法。现在我们很难找到六世达赖的灵塔，他的塑像是不会再铸的了，壁画中也看不见他的影子，据说他的离经叛道是不配做这些的。尽管如此他却在民间备受推崇，百首情诗也成了经典。

也许这样的有情有义更胜于不食人间烟火的高高在上。

好恶人 V.S. 恶好人

“好人”有时候躲在黑暗中策划、行事；

“恶人”有时候在光天化日，光明正大地行事。

众多武侠小说中，较脍炙人口的“恶人”莫过于《绝代双骄》的"十大恶人"还有《天龙八部》的“四大恶人”。恶人理所当然不是好善之人，然而好人就一定不恶吗？

“十大恶人”倒有一半不是真正的恶人，其中最好的“恶人”是李大嘴。李大嘴从前不只是个好人，还是个文武双全的才子，只因为他人进谗和妻子的背叛，导致他盛怒下手刃妻子，不得已从了“恶人”之列。这个命运悲惨的“恶人”还得假装爱吃人肉来吓走他的敌人，他常做的事只不过如此。其他的恶人如爱扮鬼的阴九幽、嗜赌的轩辕三光和好战的铁战，根本不算穷凶恶极之徒；只是世人无法忍受他们的怪癖，进而排挤、鄙视他们，将他们归类为恶人。

殊不知，被誉为大好人的“江南大侠” - 江别鹤才是恶人中的佼佼者，他使了不少奸计，单单是伪造藏宝地图，引诱无数武林人士互相残杀，就害死了不少人，“十大恶人”害死的人可能没这位“大侠”多。

人就是这样，喜欢自我中心，不喜欢接受异己；当一个人认为自己是大多数正常人时，就很自然地视其他少数有异于常人的人为不可原谅的“怪胎”，无视他们的权益，从而逼出了几位“恶人”。“恶人”做的事其实不算太恶，众人眼中的“好人”的所作所为却是大奸大恶。

3 Kinds of Relationships, Only 1 Brings True Happiness

Firstly, there are Relationships of Pleasure.

These are partners who are all about sex, drugs and rock and roll. You might share soul-less passionate sex and soul-less playful banter, but they're all about pleasures of the body or ego. They never soulnurture you with insight and growth, never bring you real-deal happiness. Hence, these partners are sould-mates (Prince Harmings), not soul mates (Prince Charmings).


Next up, there are Relationships of Utility.
A partner you spend time with in hopes of garnering greater wealth, status, fame, power, glory, or beauty by being in their presence. These partners also don't nurture your soul - only your ego. Again, these are sould-mates (Prince Harmings), not soul mates (Prince Charmings).


Finally there are Relationships of Shared Virtue.
These are partners who stimulate you, challenge you, inspire you, root for you to grow into your highest potential - who nurture your soul. A good example is Jack Nicholson's character in As Good As It Gets who says: "You make me want to be a better man." When you prioritize seeking a partner who supports your becoming your best self - instead of just crushing on someone's superficial sexy looks, charisma and wealthiness - you wind up with a soul mate /a Prince Charming/ a definite keeper!


With all this in mind, if you want to be happy in love, you must take the time to see past a guy's "superficial lures" (hottiness, funniness, smartness, success, status, power, fame, glory, wealthiness) - and look deep inside his "superinsidehimself" true core self.

Unfortunately, it's very easy to get hypnotized by "superficial lures". In particular, those fumes of chemistry can dizzy a gal into making stupid love choices. It's hugely important to remember: Yo! Hot steamy chemistry eventually fades - and what's always left beneath is a person's true soul.

(Adapted from Karen Salmansohn - Prince Harming Syndrome)

The Stage-fright Bard

How long can you sing or just talk on stage?

Can you defeat nervousness or you let it defeats you?

Stage frights grabbed her in its sinister grasp

She opens her mouth and emits just a rasp

But then something powerful take over, deep inside

Apollo's talent engulfs her, she swells with pride 

Her long fingers stroke the harp's slender strings

And the instrument revels, dances and sings

A wondrous aura of poetic might

Fills the hall and shrouds her sight

Her voice is added, now like a goddess' own tones

Her muscles tremble, there's a shudder in her bones

Forgetting her nervousness, she sings without any hard

Proving to all audiences that she is a magnificent bard

The song brings waters to the corner of all eyes

A touching melody at which the universe cries...

The Black Magic Woman

Witch, hated and despised by humanity...

Having long flowing hair of snakes, colour of cabbage

She thinks that her voice, alluring and sweet on stage

Yet it sounds like an old raven locked in the cage

Studying magic from a spell book with missing page

Casting incomplete spells, she's just a lousy mage 

Thinking that she's as wise as thousand years old sage

She's starting all the chaos and unwanted outrage

Killing all innocent men in the hall after her marriage

Turning all ladies into horrendous beasts of savage...

The Festival of Lights

Happy Diwali 2012!

Diseases everywhere, causing plagues and blights

Orphans and widows, the results of wars and fights

Life taken away easily, where are the human rights?

My eyes trying to look away, far from these sights

I am neither a peacemaker nor a holy knight

Trying to write a rhyme which is worth to recite

Making a kolam, with the pure colour of white

May the Earth baths in happiness, joy and lights...

Forced Shut Down

Surrounding myself with beautiful women keeps me younger...

(Hugh Hefner)

Flipping through the old photos which has turned brown

For years, no news from you, you don't make a sound

Old and wrinkled, I'm still the lad from that small town

Love is so abstract yet versatile, it can be verb and noun

From the photos, I saw you looking gorgeous in gown

You're holding hand with your king, wearing a crown

Seeing the happiness on your face, I smile like a clown

Memory's like a computer, which I can't forced shut down

Like our own shadow, it always follows, stalks and bounds...

Nostalgic November

Will you hold my hand and we will walk on earth again?

There's no sunshine in this dark, dusty chamber

Lying comfortably in my coffin bed made of timber

Many thought I was murdered and dismembered

There were memories which I still vividly remembered

When the villagers surrounded me, I was outnumbered

Today, I just woke up from my thousand years slumber

I can only remember what happened in my last November...

Piece Of Mind From A Rationalist - Rape and Sexual Assault

The conversations of some beasts...

Pedophiles, incestuous acts and rapes...These are what we always read and see in medias nowadays...Recently, I've read on the internet about a Pakistani woman sharing about her horrible experience and the despicable acts of the men in that country and I saw some religious men mentioned about this: "If a dog sees uncovered meat then it will eat the meat" or 'if women choose to be naked it is our right to rape them'. Well, these are some words spoken by shameless beasts from the land of the 'pure'.

As a man of rationalist, I felt disgusted and ashamed with what they said, because I never feel sexually-aroused when seeing ladies dressing sexily or provocatively. Men are born 'visual' creatures undeniably, so who doesn't love to look at bombshells in bikinis flaunting their curves at beaches or Victoria Secrets model - Alessandra Ambrosio, catwalks on stages? I admit that my eyes enjoy looking at them but  it never go extreme till I feel like committing crimes, such as rape or sexual assault. 

In my point of view, rape is a disgusting, horrendous, sadistic and sick act. No man, woman or child bring it upon themselves because of 'what they wear'. Rape is not all about clothing. It is an act of violence expressed when someone is in a position of power who is hunger for sexual pleasure. The sexual fantasy comes from that sadism to satisfy the hunger and thirst, not the actual person's nakedness or anatomy. Old ladies get raped, 'ugly' (the word 'ugly' here doesn't have a definite meaning) ladies get raped, pretty ladies get raped, young children get raped and men get raped. Sometimes, there are even cases where rapes occurred after marriage which will eventually lead to domestical violence. Like relationship, sex is not one-sided, it can only happen with the agreement of two adults. There's no love and passion in rape, only pain, scars and traumas. 

Sometimes, there are bullshits spewed by some 'fanatic human' that hijab protects ladies from rape, and those who do not wear hijab will be burnt in hell in afterlife. Or the fact that ladies in hijabs are somehow 'pure and chaste' than women who are not. To me, clothing does not mean anything, what matters are morality and faith (for those believers in God) deep within one's soul. I've seen and read about girls in hijabs had sex, took pills and drugs, getting involved in gangs or illegal racing. 

In some countries, such as Pakistan, women who are raped are considered to have dishonoured their families and have acid poured on their faces, poison forced down their throats, are stoned to death, shot, have their eyes, tongues or noses cut out, raped again and thrown away. That is how the land of 'pure' treats its women. However, I'm glad and happy that our country provides constant support and counselling to rape victims, helping them to get out of the traumatic past. 

As a conclusion, how ones dressed DOES NOT give you the right to rape or sexually assault them. If you tell all that you're a religious person, yet you don't have any self-control on yourself, you're nothing more than a beast. Only a beast will break through the chain, running loose and attacking human. 

A Raining Evening

Let the rain kiss you. 

Let the rain beat upon your head with silver liquid drops.

 Let the rain sing you a lullaby.

Listening to the advice from elder, I am yawning

Grandma told me every cloud has a silver lining

Sitting at the couch, trying to define the meaning

Preventing the cheerful sun to keep on shining

Sinister dark clouds hiding the sun, very cunning

I am looking out of the windows, it is raining

Wondering what I can do in this cold evening? 

When Love Meets Lie

Crossing paths...

You went and I cried

You rejoiced and inside I died

You smiled and I faked one

You will find many and I needed none

Thought you would miss me but I was wrong

In the end, thank you for making me strong
Things ended but still I care
You did hurt me beyond I could bear

You wanted to leave and you left
You thought I would be depressed, I bet
Survived the days where I preferred an unplanned death
I was broken beyond repair, where only darkness breath

I kept living everyday with might
Crying myself to sleep end of every night
You never bothered you moved on
I was just standing there all alone

Took me time to realise you are not the one
I cried thinking what's wrong I had done

It was good, it was bad, but that was all I had
Unfortunately, you are the one who made me sad

However, I guess it's time I let you go
Not going to die without you, I will show
Hey, you had all of me I loved you most
Guess you weren't lucky and you lost

I am going to live and will survive
You made me realised love's a beautiful lie
Trusting people again is difficult now
Did I have to trust again? But, how?

Hey, I am not going to sulk anymore
It's just only me I am going to adore
I am not going to get affected by your absence
Exactly the way you cared less about my presence

You may miss me but I wouldn't care
Yes, I have acquired this flair
You may be sorry for many things
But I would be thankful for beautiful things life brings

Nothing would now bring me low
I have become strong to just let you know
I have ruined my life enough
Now, its Time for me to have all the happy stuff...

*Always be our self and be honest with feelings when in a relationship*

*If we have spoken the 4 letters word, please use the 5 letters word, TRUST*

What's The Trouble On Your Mind?

Mood: Bad case of insomnia with an "unstable" mind...
Remedy: Listening to 苏打绿(Sodagreen)- 你在烦恼什么？(What's The Trouble On Your Mind?)
Causes of blogging: 101% Insomnia. I found this Chinese song meaningful and suit my mood. I hate to admit it I almost cry whenever I listen to this song, because it is a really touching one...As a result, I planned to translate the lyric into English language...and here it is:

The music video starts with a pitiful girl getting bullied by a group of girls...

There's no flower that never wither

There's no wave that never recede

There's no light that always shines

What's the trouble on your mind?

There's no scar that always stays

There's wound that always heals

There's no desperation that won't stop

So why are you feeling so depressed?

Time passes, leaving no traces

Life is not always full of conflicts

Never fear of every moment you spent

They formed the life you're living now...

Feeling . Actions . Restraint

Squeeze the heart tighter with heavy, rusty chains...Till it gonna bursts...

And you're feeling happy about it...Without knowing other's pain...

Sometimes when one's feeling and actions are put under control by another person,

that means it's totally pointless and meaningless already...

It's a torturous feeling that makes one to be in a confusion state of his or her own position...

The restraint feelings and actions which make one to feel like a caged bird...

The feeling of a normal person being locked up in a lunatic, bind-up and wore a mask like Dr. Hannibal...

The feeling of getting coiled up and squeezed by a giant albino python,

until you can't gasp for air...Alveoli in lungs feel like bursting...

The feeling is like waiting for Death to visit to the doorstep...One can only wait for it, but can't do anything about it...Only despair and darkness left...

The truth is feelings and actions can't be restraint...whether is LOVE or HATE...

When restraint...Both friendship and relationship are meaningless anymore...

偶像，你爱他们有多深？

30年后的你还是会记得他吗？

会为他喊Fantastic Baby吗？

偶像，这个词可以概括了不少国籍的组合与电视剧。踏入中学的学习生涯至今，虽然有点重听，但我都有一双永远都塞不住的耳朵。从早期的F4组合、飞轮海直到现在的Big Bang，都是光顾我耳朵的常客。上课之前、下课过后、空闲的时候，同学们口口声声地讨论各自的偶像有多帅，有多漂亮，接着就讨论电视剧情节。以个人立场，我应该是个“怪人”，因为老实说我的偶像不是娱乐界的人，更不曾真正地迷恋(我只抱着欣赏的目光)一个歌手或影星。词写得好让你泪水夺眶而出，歌唱得让你够high直喊Fantastic Baby，戏演得棒获了不少奖项，最多我也是给个称赞与支持。

对我而言，有偶像可以迷是件好事，毕竟总好过游手好闲，吃喝嫖赌；但偶像绝对不可以沉迷，让他们左右你的生活。也许你可能会梦见你的偶像帅哥，偶像辣妹对着你微笑、与你牵手或在雨中漫步共撑一把伞，但那其实是虚幻的。人，不管男女，原本都是视觉性的生物。只要是美、帅、让眼睛有视觉性的满足感的东西都会喜欢，都想占为己有。即时那种美，那种帅是日新月异的医学术造出来的，皆是美。就这样，很多人也开始不满意陪着自己多年的鼻子、嘴巴、眼睛、胸部等，都跑去进行整形手术了。就算偶像有多帅、有多美，你喊他们的名字喊到声音都沙哑了，他们回头一看只给你一个微笑，你就爽到心头里去了。难道这就是所谓的缺乏爱吗？偶像说爱你，其实并不是真正的爱你；因为他们其实比较爱你的钱。毕竟他们大部分的经济来源都来自粉丝们。

现今的很多人类可以说是现实，但是并不实际的。有很多年轻男女可以为了购买偶像的演唱会门票而省吃俭用，有些粉丝还因为不能接受自己的偶像藏毒而痛苦替他澄清。我想：偶像的妈妈都不会因自己的孩子犯罪坐牢，而像粉丝那样哭成一把鼻涕，一把眼泪吧？所谓：“金玉其外，败絮其中”。戏里、台上，他们也许是你可当神来膜拜的偶像，但粉丝们其实对偶像们背后的日常生活一知半解。毒品、滥交很大可能是他们的家常便饭，粉丝们也不知道。能看到的也是从报章或在网上流传的玉照。偶像并无大家想像中的完美，电视剧里的角色是依据剧本塑造出来的；但是对hardcore粉丝来说，即使偶像再不好，还是会让他们继续坐在自己心中的宝座里。

一些痴情的年轻男女还会把偶像们当成自己的未婚夫、未婚妻来看待。更夸张的是还把偶像当成自己未来的择偶标准。如果粉丝本身缺点一箩箩、在加上一副连照镜子，镜子都会破裂的容貌（但择偶条件高的人都是非常自恋的；承认自己丑的时候，也只是在帅哥美女前一时的卑微），我想：这粉丝也未免太他妈的不自量力了吧？继续挑吧，我等着你当十一叔（福建方言）还是老姑婆....回到现实与实际的世界才能让粉丝们找到真正的幸福与快乐。实际的一句：帅和漂亮的都未必会看上你（因为性取向与你有别）；富有的、家世在社会上有地位的，未必有时间陪着你；爱财如命的工作狂，未必有时间与你共处。早前在面子书看到有些粉丝上传某个偶像电视剧男星的照片，说他是完美的。就这样，又有多少个单纯的少女被“骗”了，被“荼毒”了。对，也许剧中他是个完美的情人，但是在日常生活里他只能给女粉丝们唱个《可惜不是你》。

我想：再过30年后，也没有粉丝会疯狂到与自己的孩子或孙子们抢电视遥控器，目睹自己偶像的风采吧？更何况，偶像们最不想发生的事：岁月不留人。就算有多发达的整形手术，有多强的肉毒素，他们终有一天还是会变老，会退休（退出演艺圈）。每个偶像的人生只不过是sixty second of fame。有些年轻的粉丝们工作、成家了，也只能心疼地向偶像们告别。我相信没有人会爱偶像多过爱自己的家人、情人与朋友......

[此文只是个人观点与立场，如有出言不逊，用词粗俗，向读者们致以万分道歉。]

We are friends? Yea, Just Shut Up!

The day we know each other, I call you: friend

Strong wind blows, like grasses we bend

We never know when our friendship will end

Our relationship is like pebbles and sand

When you need me, helps and offer I send

I can lend you anything, without a rent

Even if there's a crack, I will try to mend

Laughing together, all the time we spend

If you fall, I will be catching your hands...