Friends or Lovers?

Sometimes, I wonder why people said that friends can't be lovers. For me, that doesn't make any sense at all, unless your friend really doesn't have any feelings towards you and doesn't want to give you a chance at all. There's also a big possibility that he or she already have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Well, let's say you confessed your long-kept feelings to a female friend, but she turned down your confession, giving reasons that both of you can only be friends. You must be feeling puzzled and confused, right? Sometimes, this may lead to a broken friendship too, because you will feel that your love is left unanswered and wasted by the one you truly cared and loved.

So, did you ever fell in love with a person without becoming friends with him or her first? If you want to tackle a girl who is still single (you must be very sure), you will try to get her mobile phone number and e-mail address, so that you can keep in touch with her always (day and night, 24/7 ). Text messaging and chatting will become part of your routine in life. The next step will be trying to approach her, befriends with her and get to know her preferences (her favourite colours, favourite songs, hobbies etc.). Well, if things are working out smoothly and both of you are becoming best friends, why not bringing the relationship into the next level: becoming a couple of lovers?

I am sure that communications will be easy for couple who are friends, because both of them know each others preferences, hates and daily life routine. The most important thing when in a relationship are honesty, loyalty and tolerance. There are lots of things which cannot be solved through stubborn arguing and cold war. Always remember that a strong relationship is built through communications and being understanding. Apart from that, learning to apologize and ready to forgive are vital in a relationship.

It is acceptable to have a slight jealousy in a relationship, because that shows how much you care and appreciate the person you loved. It also means you can't afford to lose him or her to other opposite sexes. We must also know that a relationship is not always a smooth-sailing one, it can be as rough as waves too. Sometimes, when getting into an argument or misunderstanding, avoid using the taboo words: BREAK UP. If both of you want to start this relationship at the first place, why breaking up so easily? In fact, falling in love is not like a drama played by kindergarten kids, and the feelings are not formed in a day or two.

I admit that myself is not a love guru, and I think that I'm still a single guy. However, if you really fell in love with your friend (with single status, of course...don't ever take others girl or boy), do tell him or her your feelings. If he or she turned down your confessions reasonably, please accept his or her opinion. Don't feel sad or giving up, maybe he or she hasn't ready for the relationship; and maybe he or she need some time to make the decision. Don't ever be too pushy towards your friend in giving you an answer.

Sometimes, he or she will also give you some hints, so always stay alert and more sensible. If he or she doesn't give you an answer or a "YES", move on with your life and just remain as two good friends; You can severe that friendship too, maybe if you feel that he or she makes you look stupid and causes you to lose tonnes of money, energy and time. If you are stubborn (even though he or she give you a "NO") or patient enough to wait, then have faith that miracle may happen once in a blue moon. Who knows love conquers all, right?

ALWAYS APPRECIATE THE ONE WHO LOVES US,

BUT ALWAYS BE READY IN HEART THAT THE ONE WE LOVED,

WILL NOT ALWAYS LOVE US BACK...

AND

IT'S HARD TO WAIT AROUND FOR SOMETHING

THAT MIGHT NEVER HAPPEN;

BUT IT'S EVEN HARDER TO GIVE UP WHEN

YOU KNOW IT'S EVERYTHING YOU WANT...